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Relationships Evolving // Beziehungsentwicklungen

The other day, the Guides sent me another one of their timeless messages. Lately, I’ve been enjoying channeling these messages for my Blog, and what I find fascinating about these messages is that they often shine a light onto that area of our lives where relationship patterns and intuitive wisdom meet: What do you know about your relationships (of all kinds), even if you can’t quite say where that knowing came from? And what is your relationship to your intuitive wisdom like, these days?  

Here’s a timeless message the Guides wanted me to share:

“It’s ok if the quality of the relationships you want changes over time. You heart evolves with you. The more you learn about yourself, the more you will want your relationships to grow, too. So, it’s completely normal if your relationships of the present and of the future don’t resemble the relationships you’ve had in the past. That’s heart evolution.”

– The Guides

A bit of background information: 

In my Sessions, what often happens is that a client stumbles upon an emotional-energetic pattern that’s connected to a person they’ve met, again and again, over several lifetimes. For example, as we analyse the pattern, my client remembers that their heart broke because of that person – not three years ago, though, but rather, three centuries ago. 

Or, the Guides are revealing to my client that a certain emotional pattern they find themselves in didn’t even develop in this lifetime, but rather, many lifetimes ago, when my client had to react to a situation that was particularly complex and that involved their current parents, siblings, bosses, children, friends or partners, whose presence now arouses the emotional pattern, for a second time. 

The good thing about our current lifetime, in my view, is this: Not only can we go back in time and find our original memory of these difficult emotional-energetic patterns, but we can then also use that kind of time-travel to bring peace into our old energy fields.  

And we can do this without having to involve the other person in our transformational work: 

That’s an option because you can decide, on your own, to clean up your old energy fields – which, interestingly enough, can then bring a lot of clarity and energetic peace into the Here & Now.  

That’s as if you were clearing out & cleaning up a room full of old junk in a house you share with several others: You don’t need their collaboration to do the cleaning. But the energetic effects of your efforts will be palpable to all who share that house (or that energy field) with you. 

The result: Your relationship to that person will change in the Here & Now. 

Sometimes, what happens is that you decide to go no-contact as you’re noticing that the other person is carrying around too much of that “old junk” type energy. 

Sometimes, what happens is that a relationship changes for the better, and that a conflict which had been festering for years, suddenly dissolves as if by magic.

And sometimes, what happens is that somebody comes back into your life – someone you thought you had lost a few centuries ago, and whom your heart had been aching to reconnect with, ever since. 

With the old junk gone, there’s room for the beautiful.

That’s heart evolution. 

And it’s ok to expect things to improve when it comes to your relationships, once the old junk is cleared out of your energy fields. 

That’s what Energy Work is for.  

P.S.: The price for my Oracle Readings has gone up – however, until May 31, you can still use the coupon code ORACLE25 to receive a 25 € discount. Here’s where you can book your appointment. And if you need any help finding the “right” question to ask, feel free to email me, beforehand. I look forward to seeing you for your next Oracle Reading! 

Neulich haben mir die Guides mal wieder eine ihrer zeitlosen Messages geschickt. Seit einiger Zeit channele ich diese Messages gern mal ab und zu für meinen Blog hier, und was ich daran spannend finde, ist, dass es in diesen Messages oft um den Bereich unseres Lebens geht, wo sich Beziehungsthemen und intuitives Wissen treffen: Was weißt Du über Deine Beziehungen (egal, welcher Art), obwohl Du vielleicht gar nicht unbedingt sagen kannst, woher Du diese Dinge weißt? Und was für eine Art von Beziehung hast Du gerade zu Deinem intuitiven Wissen? 

Hier eine zeitlose Message von den Guides dazu: 

“Es ist ok wenn sich die Qualität der Beziehungen, die Du möchtest, über die Jahre verändert. Je mehr Du über Dich selbst lernst, umso mehr wirst Du wollen, dass Deine Beziehungen ebenfalls wachsen. Es ist also völlig normal, wenn die Beziehungen, die Du in Deiner Gegenwart und in der Zukunft erlebst, den Beziehungen aus Deiner Vergangenheit kein bisschen ähneln. Das Herz entwickelt sich weiter.”

– The Guides

Ein bisschen Background dazu: 

In meinen Sessions erlebe ich immer wieder, dass Klient*innen über emotional-energetische Themen stolpern, die mit einem Menschen zu tun haben, dem sie über mehrere Leben immer wieder begegnet sind. Während wir das Thema gemeinsam analysieren, erinnern sie sich dann zum Beispiel daran, dass ihr Herz wegen dieses Menschen gebrochen war – und zwar nicht erst vor drei Jahren, sondern schon vor drei Jahrhunderten. 

Oder sie bekommen von den Guides gezeigt, dass sie ein bestimmtes emotionales Muster gar nicht erst in diesem Leben entwickelt haben, sondern schon vor vielen Leben, weil sie damals auf eine besonders komplizierte Ausgangslage reagieren mussten, in die ihre jetzigen Eltern, Geschwister, Vorgesetzten, Kinder, Freund*innen, Partner*innen, etc. involviert waren, in deren Gegenwart dieses emotionale Muster jeweils auch jetzt wieder auftaucht. 

Das Gute an unserem jetzigen Leben ist, dass wir nicht nur in der Zeit zurück gehen können, um die ursprüngliche Erinnerung an diese emotional-energetisch schwierigen Themen zu finden, sondern wir können über diese Art der Zeitreise dann auch dort, in diesen alten Energiefeldern, wieder Frieden in die Sache bringen. 

Und zwar ganz ohne den jeweils anderen Menschen in unsere transformative Arbeit involvieren zu müssen: 

Das geht, weil Du von Deiner Seite aus selbstständig beschließen kannst, Deine damaligen Energiefelder aufzuräumen, was dann interessanterweise auch wieder mehr mehr Klarheit und energetische Ruhe ins Hier & Jetzt bringt. 

Das kannst Du Dir ungefähr so vorstellen, als würdest Du eine alte Rumpelkammer in einem gemeinsam bewohnten Haus aufräumen & putzen: Dafür brauchst Du die Mitarbeit Deiner Mitbewohner*innen nicht. Aber der energetische Effekt ist für alle spürbar, die dieses Haus (oder eben dieses Energiefeld) mit Dir teilen. 

Das Ergebnis: Die Beziehung zu diesem Menschen verändert sich im Hier & Jetzt. 

Manchmal bedeutet das, dass Du explizit keinen Kontakt mehr haben möchtest, weil dieser andere Mensch für Deinen Geschmack einfach zu viel “Rumpelkammer-Energie” hat. 

Manchmal bedeutet das aber auch, dass sich eine Beziehung überraschend verbessert, und sich Konflikte wie von allein lösen, die über Jahre festgefahren waren. 

Und manchmal bedeutet es, dass plötzlich jemand zurück in Dein Leben kommt, den Du vor Jahrhunderten aus den Augen verloren hast, und nach dem sich Dein Herz aber immer gesehnt hat. 

Ohne Gerümpel ist wieder Platz für Schönes. 

Das Herz entwickelt sich weiter. 

Und es ist völlig ok, nach so einer Aufräum-Aktion eine Verbesserung der Qualität dessen zu erwarten, was Deine Beziehungsfelder so hergeben. 

Dafür ist Energiearbeit da.

P.S.: Der Preis für meine Oracle Readings hat sich erhöht – bis Ende Mai kannst Du aber gern den Coupon Code ORACLE25 nutzen, mit dem Du 25 € Rabatt bekommst. Zur Buchung bitte hier entlang. Und wenn Du im Voraus Hilfe brauchst, um die “richtige” Frage zu finden, schreib mir gern eine E-Mail. Ich freue mich auf das nächste Oracle Reading mit Dir!  

Receiving intuitive guidance // Intuitive Guidance bekommen

Your Intuition is your connection to your inner truth. It’s here when you need it. Like a wise good friend. And it loves to speak to you in very clear ways. But what do you do when those messages you’re receiving aren’t clear, at all? What do you do when you feel like your intuition speaks in riddles? 

My advice: Slow down. 

And try this: 

  1. Ask someone to hold space for you. Listening to your inner truth is often much easier when there’s someone there to amplify your inner voice for you, just by holding a clear intention of doing so. 
  2. Ask your intuitive inner voice to answer one question for you: “When was the last time you spoke to me – and what was that message?” 
  3. Then, try to locate where your intuitive voice is situated in your system, as you listen for the answer: Does it speak to you through a body sensation? Is it a Guide? Does it arrive in your mind via inner downloads? Does it talk to you – are you actually hearing things? Or does it send you images, thoughts, or dreamlike inner visions? 
  4. As you re-listen to the message, what do you notice? Did you take it seriously, when your intuition first sent it? If so, what did that change for you? How did this message help you? Would you like to ask your intuition to give you more clarity, regarding this message? If so, try this: “I’m not sure I understand – could you say more, please?” 
  5. Thank the one who held space for you, and thank your inner guidance for its message. Take some time to come back to your Here & Now. And to finish, take a piece of paper and write your future self a note of what just happened. 

If you’d like me to support you with listening to your inner voice, and receive some very clear answers, reach out: Sessions are currently available for April, May and June. To book & schedule your next Session (or an Intro Consultation, if we haven’t met yet), go to my booking area.

Talk soon!

#InnerWisdomSystem #SweetMystery

Deine Intuition ist Deine Verbindung zu Deiner inneren Wahrheit. Sie ist für Dich da wenn Du sie brauchst. Wie eine weise gute Freund*in. Und sie spricht am liebsten in klaren Worten. Aber was machst Du, wenn die Messages, die Du von Deiner Intuition bekommst, überhaupt nicht klar sind? Was machst Du, wenn Du den Eindruck hast, dass Deine Intuition in Rätseln spricht?

Meine Empfehlung: Geh langsam vor. 

Und probier mal Folgendes: 

  1. Bitte jemanden, für Dich Space zu halten. Deiner inneren Wahrheit zuzuhören ist oft einfacher, wenn jemand dabei ist, der Deine innere Stimme für Dich mit-verstärken kann – und das klappt oft schon einfach dadurch, dass Dein Gegenüber eine klare Intention dafür hält. 
  2. Bitte dann Deine intuitive innere Stimme darum, Dir eine einfache Frage zu beantworten: “Wann hast Du zuletzt mit mir gesprochen – und was war die Message?”
  3. Versuch dann, zu lokalisieren, wo sich Deine innere Stimme in Deinem System befindet, während Du der Antwort lauschst: Spricht sie mit Dir über eine Art Körperempfinden? Spricht sie als Guide mit Dir? Kommt sie bei Dir als innerer Download an, also auf der mentalen Ebene? Spricht sie mit Dir – hörst Du also tatsächlich etwas? Oder schickt Dir Deine Intuition Bilder, Gedanken oder traumartige Visionen?
  4. Was fällt Dir auf, während Du Dir diese Message nochmal anhörst oder wahrnimmst? Hattest Du sie ernst genommen, als Deine Intuition sie Dir zum ersten Mal geschickt hat? Wenn ja, was hat das in Dir verändert? Inwieweit war diese Message hilfreich für Dich? Möchtest Du, dass Dir Deine Intuition dazu noch mehr Klarheit reinbringt? Wenn ja, probier’s hiermit: “Ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob ich das schon verstanden habe – kannst Du mir bitte mehr dazu sagen?” 
  5. Bedank Dich bei der Person, die den Space für Dich gehalten hat, und bedank Dich bei Deiner Intuition für ihre Message. Nimm Dir ein bisschen Zeit, um wieder ganz im Hier & Jetzt anzukommen. Und dann nimm Dir ein Blatt Papier und schreib Deinem zukünftigen Ich eine kleine Notiz zu dem, was Du gerade erlebt hast. 

Wenn Du gern meine Hilfe dabei hättest, Deine innere Stimme hören zu können und von ihr klare Infos zu bekommen, melde Dich: Im Moment sind Sessions für April, Mai und Juni erhältlich. Im Booking-Bereich kannst Du Dir Deinen nächsten Session-Termin buchen (oder eine Intro Consultation, falls wir uns noch nicht kennen).

Bis bald!

#InnerWisdomSystem #SweetMystery 

Playful and easy, is what we imagine life to be like

The other day, my Guides gave me a very interesting image for what life feels like for our inner selves: They showed me how, before we incarnate into a human body, we imagine our human world to be a huge living playroom filled with many beautiful toys, and we imagine that there will be many beautiful people there, waiting for us to come play.

And then we come down to Earth, and life is not exactly the way we imagined it to be.

Yes, life is like a playroom filled with toys, and yes, there are many other people there, but in this room, things are a bit chaotic at first.

That room isn’t exactly tidy.

Also, some of the people who are playing with you in the very first years of your life are not necessarily the ones you really like the most. And what’s worse, those people may teach you that you are not allowed to play with the toys your heart longs for – and instead, they hand you toys which either don’t make sense to you, or which you don’t like to play with, or which you find quite boring. And it can take quite a long time to figure out where to find those playmates you really like to play with.

In other words, in most cases, you will have to tidy up this huge playroom – meaning, your life – before it can be any fun to play in it.

You might have to put away the toys your ancestors have left behind if those toys don’t match your personality. And you may have to repair certain toys that you yourself have left laying around in some of your previous lives. It’s quite possible that you will really love to play with those toys again, but for various reasons, they will need a makeover for this lifetime, or they won’t be any fun.

Then, you will have to figure out whether those games the grownups have taught you during childhood feel harmonious to who you are, or whether you would like to play some different games, instead. (This part can be very challenging to the nervous system, because it means that your mind will have to learn some new ways of thinking.)

And at some point, you will find out that there’s a whole section in that playroom where there are completely new things waiting for you to create whole new games with – games that will have never existed before. Spoiler alert: If you love Earth’s creative ever-changing energies, you’re going to love this section.

By the way, this whole process is the work that we do in all of my Sessions: We tidy up together. We repair things. We discover new things. And we have a look at your “playroom” as a whole (i.e. your life), and whether you like to play the way you do – or whether your play is still lead by the voices of your ancestors which might not be in tune with who you are.

I find this metaphor of life as a playroom quite fitting for the times we are living in (and I’m aware that I’m speaking from a privileged European perspective here):

These days, it’s relatively easy to energetically access those things that want to get “repaired” within you – e.g. those emotionally charged “toys” (i.e. your interests, preferences, gifts, etc.) that may have gotten damaged in the past.

Also, in the here and now, we have a lot of freedom to choose the people we want to play with.

Plus: We have lots of technologies and huge amounts of knowledge that are freely accessible, which means that there’s also lots of room to create new things.

Meaning, if we courageously face the inner reality of our “playroom”, our lives can become quite beautiful, and we can then play games that are quite fun.

There are a few prerequisites for that kind of fun, though.

First: You need to be willing to tidy up and to energetically repair the things that are not working for you. (I can help with that – no-one needs to do this by themselves.)

Second: You need to be open to follow your heart and to go look for those playmates you really really really want to play with.

And third: You need to stay curious and you need to actively seek out those creative opportunities the world is offering you – so that you can evolve alongside Earth and move forward with the current timeline.

On that note, enjoy your playroom!

Some thoughts on Yogi Bhajan’s transgressions

We live in a time where secrets don’t stay secret for too long. Thankfully, this also means that the spiritual scene all over the globe has begun to face its own collective shadows, addressing allegations against some spiritual teachers who seem to have abused their powers and who seem to have violated their student’s boundaries left and right. Sadly, the Kundalini Yoga scene is no exception: About a week ago, a thorough report on Yogi Bhajan’s sexual and spiritual transgressions was released (click here for the link, if you’d like to read it). It’s quite an explicit document, and the ways in which he seems to have abused his position as a spiritual leader to manipulate and mistreat members of his personal staff become quite apparent throughout the report. The document cites both victims as well as people who are trying to rescue his reputation, and interestingly, both sides paint a similar picture, describing his domineering, authoritarian character in detail.

When I began practicing Kundalini Yoga a few years after his death, I didn’t know anything about the man, Yogi Bhajan. I had been looking for ways to deal with chronic pain, and a friend recommended Kundalini Yoga as a type of yoga “that does things to you, energetically, and it’s hard to explain. It just works.” Which was exactly how I experienced it. So, I only ever saw Kundalini Yoga as a collection of energy work tools, and I never followed the religious side of Yogi Bhajan’s teachings. Also, I guess I was lucky to receive my training from teachers who refrained from any kind of cult-like reverence when it came to him as a person.

Reading the report on his transgressions must be hard for those who saw him as their personal guru. Apparently, he was one of those spiritual teachers who didn’t live by his own teachings, and I feel for those who are now questioning everything.

Sexual violence is a beast, and unfortunately, Yogi Bhajan was one of many spiritual teachers who were fascinated by its darkness. I’ve worked with several clients over the years who suffered from abuse at the hands of their own spiritual teachers, and clearly, there’s still a lot of work to be done if we truly want to transmute the energies of sexual violence on this planet.

My heart goes out to all who trusted their spiritual teachers and had their trust betrayed. Life is not fair, sometimes.

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Are you using your Inner Wisdom System?

Many spiritual teachers predicted that the years between 2012 and 2038 would be a transition into a whole new era.

Our consciousness would become more sophisticated, they said. And we would shift into a more ecologically healthy way of being. Life would become more peaceful, we would connect with our soul families, and we would all become the proud owners of some excellent intuitive gifts that would help us create a whole new world built on justice and freedom. 

For a while, I just assumed that this meant that we would get easy access to our intuitive wisdom all by ourselves, and that we would then automatically download our personal goals for this lifetime… and that we would basically all become happier and happier, in the process.

For some of us, this is exactly what has been happening.

For others – and I think this is the majority – it’s been different: We know something needs to change, and so we’ve been practicing Yoga and meditation. We’ve read all the wisdom teachings to get some answers. We might even have gone through some spiritual training or other. And we think we know how to work with our intuition.

But then again, the results we are getting from doing all of that inner work haven’t been what we thought they would be.

Our minds are still stressed, and we can’t really tell if we’re headed in the right direction. Our relationships haven’t improved much. Our intuitive guidance often doesn’t give us any clear answers. And we are not exactly sure how we can keep holding our inner strength when every week, there’s another major social, ecological or personal challenge to be dealt with (COVID-19, neo-fascists trying to undermine democracy, heat waves happening in Siberia, floods all across the globe… the list seems endless).

In other words, life has not magically turned into the love-fest those spiritual teachers saw coming.

Or, rather: Not, yet.

And I think that’s because many spiritual teachings are missing one important step: Customisation.

The times we are living in are an invitation to begin creating a personal relationship with all of these elements that make up your inner wisdom system.

It’s not enough to know that there’s a third eye in you, which, theoretically, can pick up on intuitive guidance. You need to know how, exactly, your inner wisdom is speaking to you, personally, and how you can differentiate between a thought and your intuitive insights. You need to have reference points for what your inner guidance sounds like, and whether it’s coming from your Guides, your soul, your heart, or some other place like the Earth, or your future self.

So, the times we are living in are an invitation to getting some answers to some big questions, such as:

  • What is the concrete mission my soul has envisioned, for this lifetime?
  • Which part of my inner wisdom system can help me make important decisions from a place of integrity and self-knowing, when life is as unpredictable as it is right now?
  • How can I ground my closest relationships in love+trust+respect and transform them into mutually enriching partnerships and friendships that will survive any chaos?
  • And how can I stay connected to my inner guidance, use its wisdom to consciously evolve with a rapidly changing world, and contribute to creating a better life for us all, without burning out in the process?

These are some of the questions you should be asking yourself right now.

I would like to invite you to have a look at my new Session Cycle called Your Inner Wisdom System, and see if you feel that my work could support you in these times. We don’t have to start with a full-on, 12-Session Cycle. A single session or a 4-Session Package can be a powerful beginning.

If you like what you see on my Inner Wisdom System page, meet me for a non-binding Intro Consultation via Zoom, and let’s ask your inner wisdom system to give you some clarifying insights into a particular question that is bugging you, right now. This is how all of my coaching relationships start.

Send me a note via my Contact Page if you are interested, and I’ll send you a link to my online scheduling system, where you can choose an appointment for our Intro Consultation that suits you.

I look forward to working with you!

How long until I’m fully healed?

Healing doesn’t happen over night. Until it does.

As humans, we evolve in spirals, I believe. Arriving at the same point of realisation, again and again. Once you add some inner work to your life, that same realisation will look more polished, and sparklier, and more interesting though, after every round. It will start to feel like relief, and crispness, and freedom. Because every time you arrive anew, you will see a new possibility for choosing a sweeter mode of being where there was none, before.

And all of the internal shifts you have taken will have been necessary stepping stones for you to arrive at this exact view point.

And all of the energy blocks you have released along the way will have made lifting yourself up those steps easier and easier.

And all of those late nights when all you could do was to inch your way through this obstacle course called life, will have been life-giving.

As you keep doing your inner work, you will notice how, at some point, an old emotional wound will have healed. As if over night. And you will find that you’ve moved yourself up, another round up the spiral.

Healing your inner children

Healing yourself can start by healing your younger selves. Give your inner children – of all ages – the love and care and truth and beauty they were missing, growing up. Take their needs seriously, and let them share their strengths with you.

Ask your inner two-year-old about boundaries. She knows all about that No.

Let your inner four-year-old show you how her Guides, Angels and Healing Beings are helping her cope, in this strange world we are living in.

Let your inner seven-year-old decide who she wants to be friends with. She knows how to read her heart.

Ask your inner 12-year-old if she would like to share her deep thoughts with you.

And let your inner 17-year-old tell you about all the ways she would like to express her soul and herself.

Here’s another sweet practice you can try:

Use your imagination to build each of your younger selves a new home, and let them furnish and decorate their new places in any way they choose. Don’t judge them for what they want to put into their new rooms, and watch how they express themselves through interior design. See how they carefully place their most cherished items within reach, and sense-see-feel how much love goes into each decision. Let them make themselves comfortable, and give them room to explore and to change anything they like, as often as they like.

It’s your imagination, where everything is possible – and where your younger selves can fully be themselves.

Enjoy!

And if you need any help with this, let’s work together.
Helping your younger selves heal is part of what I do.

How to hold your inner strength

The more things are being driven into chaos all around us, the more important it is for each of us to be able to draw from our own inner strength. And because there is so much violence and fear that is getting swirled up, it can be difficult to access that kind of strength within ourselves.

Holding (and using) your spiritual strength is like the ability to control your breathing: It is like using all of those small muscles in your torso to draw in a full deep breath, expanding your ribcage and your belly, and to then let your lungs let out the air again, in a steady and controlled stream, until your solar plexus softens and gets ready to draw the next breath in.

Some energetic part of you knows how to pull your inner strength into yourself, how to hold it, and how to then release it and use it, in a very deliberate way.

For some of us, using our spiritual power means to hold our ground in a heated argument and to channel peace – even though we’re scared – and to direct all parties involved towards focusing on a specific solution to a specific problem. 

For some of us, using our spiritual power means to move with our creative instincts and to keep working on a project until it feels right, before we release it – even though fear would rather have us put out a half-finished version, instead, just to be done with it.

For some of us, using our spiritual power means to trust our intuitive senses and to gently hold space when our relationship grids are evolving into a new direction, even when our PTSD triggers would have us fall into fight, flight, freeze or fawn at the slightest sign of distress.

For many of us, it is very difficult to reconnect to that kind of inner strength.

We try to take a deep breath inwards, but our diaphragm keeps trembling, and it feels like our lungs are not filling up the way we would need them to.

And we try to push our fear-based stress responses against an ever-changing world, because we haven’t learned how to trust ourselves.

We can’t remember what it is like to let our spiritual muscles hold us, move us, keep us safe.

Try this

Developing your ability to draw from your inner spiritual strength takes practice. And you won’t be able to get there by yourself. We need each other to become ourselves. So, here are my two cents: A list of transformational practices that can help you hold your inner strength – and if you need support with any of those practices, contact me. It’s what I do. 

  • Develop a daily spiritual practice that makes sense to you, and keep it up.
  • Do the necessary healing work and release as much personal and collective trauma from your system as possible, until you feel like yourself again. This is the most difficult part. And unfortunately, it will cost you: Time, energy, money, sometimes relationships, and many illusions. 
  • Rebuild your personal boundaries – on an energetic level first, and then through action and words. Be mindful of what you will and won’t allow to happen in your relationships with other people, and be as good a friend to yourself as you are a friend to those you love.
  • Learn how to hold your personal space, and use your breath and your intent to regularly center and ground yourself into that line of light that flows up and down your spine, down through the heart of earth, and up through the center of your soul – in an endless loop, going up and down. It is your lifeline to the love and nourishment coming to you from Earth, and it is a direct hotline to your soul’s intuitive wisdom and power.
  • Get clear on who you are, at soul level, and then translate that expertise into your human life. This can be tricky, because we tend to be a bit blind to ourselves. So, find someone who can help you understand yourself. The clearer you get on who you are, the more you will be able to fully engage with your gifts and talents and bring them to life. 
  • Stay focused on your own experience, and stay close to the people you trust.
  • Keep building a world you would like to live in. And find a bigger cause you can support, outside of what you can do, as an individual.
  • Don’t get discouraged if you can “only” work on one single issue to help create a better world. That one single issue will touch many lives. Keep it up. Ask your soul to let you know how you can use your creativity to unfold that one single issue, in the best way possible, and then fill it with life.

Do you need help with any of these practices? Contact me. It’s all part of my work.

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A state of overwhelm

Over the past couple of months, I have taken some time to learn more about nervous system regulation, which can help to address states of shut-down and burn-out, triggered by chronic stress or PTSD.

And the more I learned, the more I could sense the deep feeling of overwhelm that seems to paralyse and frighten so many of us, sending us into low energy states and shut-down, or hightened energy states and burn-out, when it comes to the current developments on this planet. Some call it a “trauma-spell”, and it affects individuals as well as the collective.

We feel overwhelmed when it comes to the current crash of our natural environment, we feel overwhelmed when we observe the current political shifts towards far-right extremism, and on top of it all, there’s the overwhelm that shows up when we face difficulties in our personal lives – in our relationships with others, and in our relationship with ourselves.

And the more I learned about the energetic expressions of that overwhelm, the more I could also sense that working towards establishing a sense of self-trust, equilibrium and solution-orientedness can seem utterly impossible, when you’re in the thick of it.

Which is why, in every one of my client Sessions, I consciously apply Yogic meditative tools at the beginning of each Session (and sometimes throughout) to help my client get into a state of balance and ease, in order to help them tune into their intuitive guidance system.

Because in that state of balance, where we have access to our #innerwisdomsystem – that’s where we can sense-see solutions to what is keeping us shut down, or burned out. That’s where clarity lives.

Some simple self-regulating tools

When you find yourself in such a state of overwhelm, there are two quite simple things you can try: Singing, and dancing. Both singing and dancing can help to regulate low energy states and shut-down (i.e. hypoarousal), as well as hightened energy states and burn-out (i.e. hyperarousal).*

When you’re in a low energy state (i.e. when your autonomic nervous system feels frozen and shut down), your mind may be thinking thoughts like “I don’t know what to do, I don’t know where to start, it’s all too much”. Your body may feel paralysed and your head is probably quite foggy, eyelids heavy, focus: gone.

Try dancing.

It’s the simplest way to bring some warmth into your frozenness. If dancing seems to be too much of a stretch, start by wiggling your toes to a piece of music. HipHop or R&B are perfect for this. Get one part of your body to move to the music, then another. If you can, stand up and rhythmically shift your weight from one leg to the other, and back again. Left and right, left and right. Keep your knees slightly bent, and let your body become one with the rhythm. Keep moving, even if it’s difficult at first. Left, and right. Move for 10 minutes at a time, and see how you feel.

When you’re in a hightened energy state (i.e. when your autonomous nervous system is in fight-or-flight mode, racing towards burnout), you may be thinking thoughts like “There’s so much I need to do, I haven’t done enough, I can’t stop working, I have to do more”, and your body probably feels antsy and restless. Your eyes are wide open (too wide, actually), and your whole system feels stressed. Which is not the kind of mood that would usually have you burst into song. But that’s exactly what can help you get back into a state of equilibrium:

When you start to sing, you start to regulate your autonomic nervous system – if the style you’re singing in elongates your outward breath.

So, find a slow, gentle song that has you singing long phrases on long outward breaths. The mantra Ra Ma Da Sa by Snatam Kaur is perfect for this. Sing along for 10 minutes and see how you feel.

*P.S.: Obviously, these tips do not replace medical care nor therapy or healing modalities. Please contact your medical doctor, your mental healthcare specialist or your spiritual healer if your symptoms persist.

An altruist’s edge

In my coaching practice, I often work with people who are altruists, who are also fantastically good at bringing people together. They are the queens and kings of party-throwing. They plan beautiful projects with dozens of people involved. They see these projects through till the end. And they sacrifice some of their own well-being for the sake of being of service to others. They see where our human society lacks justice, beauty and peace, and then they work hard to literally make this world a better place. They get things done. And they are over-worked and under-nourished when it comes to their heart’s deeper needs and desires.

If this is you, here’s an edge you are carrying around, probably without knowing it: You have such a deep longing for being with other people that you create elaborate experiences for others just so you can connect with with them – at the expense of your own time and energy.

The mere act of bringing people together – by inviting a diverse team of professionals to join you for a new project you just plucked out of your highly creative brain, or by having your friends come sit around your kitchen table at brunch – is highly fulfilling for you.

But the thought that you could connect with others “without a purpose” is probably deeply uncomfortable for you.

Imagine you would meet with someone just to spend time with them.

To have coffee with a friend, with no other agenda than to chat for a while and to feel well in each other’s presence.

And to then not invite that friend over to your place.

To then also not pay for a whole party and invite all of your other friends, too.

To just say to someone: “Hey, I would love to see you. Are you free on Friday?”

And to not have this coffee date be about anything else but connection.

If you are feeling a psychological edge when you imagine going there: Good. Play with that edge. Feel its shape and size, and sense where this experience starts making you feel uncomfortable: As soon as you imagine calling your friend? When you imagine that there’s no deeper meaning behind that date, that you would just like to spend time with them? When you imagine that you won’t be paying for your friend’s coffee, only for the one you are going to have, yourself?

Sense where you have a tendency to over-give, and where you feel uncomfortable around receiving the gift of spending time with someone you love.

And then call your friend anyway.

Let this be awkward.

You are trying something new.