In my coaching practice, I often work with people who are altruists, who are also fantastically good at bringing people together. They are the queens and kings of party-throwing. They plan beautiful projects with dozens of people involved. They see these projects through till the end. And they sacrifice some of their own well-being for the sake of being of service to others. They see where our human society lacks justice, beauty and peace, and then they work hard to literally make this world a better place. They get things done. And they are over-worked and under-nourished when it comes to their heart’s deeper needs and desires.
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If this is you, here’s an edge you are carrying around, probably without knowing it: You have such a deep longing for connecting with other people that you create experiences for others just to connect with them – at the expense of your own time and energy.
Energy Work
How to get centered and grounded
If you’ve spent a bit of time in the personal development world online, you may have noticed certain buzzwords:
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“Centered”, for example.
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“Grounded”.
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“Aligned”.
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“Tuned in”.
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For me as an energy worker, all of those terms describe very specific states of being, and they mean very specific processes that I use in all of my Sessions. I’m not so sure if everyone who uses those words online uses them in the same way I do, though. So I thought I’d do a bit of disambiguation work today. Clarify two of those terms out there: “centered”, and “grounded”. And share one of my techniques to help you actually get centered, and grounded.
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Why? Because these two states of being are at the heart of every type of personal development. If you know how to get centered and grounded, you know how to pull yourself into yourself when things are chaotic around you, and you create an opening that lets you access your intuitive wisdom when your mind is spinning.
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So here goes.
The Love-Trust-Respect Triangle
“Imagine a world where your closest relationships are built on Love-Trust-Respect. Now compare that world to your current reality. What do you see?” – #innerwisdomsystem
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In my work, I often come across an energetic triangle of love, trust and respect. It seems to build a solid foundation for our most precious relationships, and when one of its three building blocks is missing, things tend to feel a bit wonky.
Your soul has an inner structure
Just as a dry little seed holds the full DNA of a flower, your soul’s innate structure holds all the information on who you are.
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A flower’s DNA holds information on how its plant will react to floods or droughts, how it will play with bees and other pollinators, how it will copy its inner system and create new generations of plants, and so on.
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It’s a very neutral process of growth, bloom, death and rebirth that plays out every day, right outside our windows.
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Similarly, your soul’s inner structure knows who you are.
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Its inner wisdom knows how you will react to the societal challenges you grow up in, how you will move through joyful or traumatic experiences, how you will connect with souls that are compatible to yours, how you will give birth to new ideas, etc.
How to be angry
Every once in a while, some of my clients will come into my Sessions angry. And I mean fuming. So angry they can hardly speak, because whatever they might want to say would come out wrong.
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They are angry because of the political situation they are in.
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Angry because their mother said… or because their father didn’t…
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Angry because they only just remembered the depth of their relationship trauma.
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Or just plain angry because the world is seemingly going to pieces.
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Here is what to do when you feel that kind of anger and it’s overwhelming for you: