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Love is not governed by the mind

The four subtle chambers of your heart hold deep wisdom for you. They also hold the patterns of your current relationship with love. And they know which energy medicine is needed in order for you to compassionately heal your relationship with love.

Hardly anyone of us grew up in an environment that was infused with actual love.

And the patterns our ancestors laid out before us do not work for the times we are living in.

Love is not governed by the mind, and yet, our minds often try to convince us that there must be a reasonable step-by-step guide that we can follow to be in love, and that there surely is such a thing as a “proven method” for us to master this game, once and for all.

The heart knows another way. It would like to take you inwards and lead you on a much more subtle journey, on a much more mystical ride than the mind would like love to be. The mind’s tools do not work in this realm.

To love and be loved means to let your heart lead you. And it means to be in true relationship with yourself, with the ones you want to spend your time with, and with the world as such – as brutal as it is, sometimes.

Contact me if you’d be interested in exploring the four mystical chambers of your heart and go on this ancient healing journey with me. I would be honoured to serve you in this way.

Truth feels like Relief

One of the biggest AHA moments many of my clients get when they start working with me is that truth feels like relief – even if it seems painful, at first.

There’s a complex mental avoidance mechanism going on when we do not want to see the full truth of a situation, which can create chronic stress symptoms – for example when we want to avoid addressing trauma or adverse childhood experiences. This avoidance mechanism is a protection process that tries to keep our assumptions about life as unchanging as possible, because this part of us is trying to keep us “safe”.

However, addressing the truth about what really happened, or the truth about how life really is, instead of sugarcoating it, actually feels like a relief.

And yet, because we are trained to avoid certain truths, we are afraid of what might happen if these sugarcoated truths were revealed.

For example, in relationships, we often have a “gut feeling” about someone when we don’t fully trust them. And yet, since most of us were raised to be polite, we often choose not to go with that gut feeling, and to stay polite, instead.

So, we are trying to make things work with that person – to literally STAY, politely, instead of leaving – even though our body mirrors back to us that we do not trust them.

Allowing yourself to examine that intuitive body mirror will always reveal very valid reasons for why your body does not trust that person.

And revealing that truth is the relief your body aches for. It is the clarity of being able to let go of someone, even if, on paper, that someone might have been perfect.

Your body knows if they aren’t.

Trust that knowing.

If you need any help with deciphering the messages your body mirrors back at you, contact me for a free Intro Conversation. This is the work that I do.

Relationships are like ecosystems

The best relationships are a bit like symbiotic ecosystems: When you are embedded in a cooperative ecosystem of souls that are compatible and familiar with your own soul, you thrive like an orchid living on a big beautiful tree in the middle of an ancient intact rain forest.

In other words: Your soul has soul-siblings and soul-partners (romantic, and otherwise) that you intimately know how to work with, live with, love with, before you are formally introduced here on this planet.

And when the two of you meet, as humans, it’s like a spiritual element of your life clicks into place that was missing before.

However, Earth is big. And unfortunately, we rarely grow up right around the corner from our soul siblings and soul partners.

Which means that finding those people we naturally click with can be quite a bit of a challenge. Spiritually, energetically, and time-wise.

Also, as a western society, we are very much used to the drama of dysfunctional relationship patterns. So when we do meet those soul mates, the peace that is at the core of that new-familiar relationship can almost seem dull in comparison, at first.

We are so used to drama, in fact, that some of us are addicted to it.

If we haven’t encountered anyone from our own familiar ecosystem yet, we tend to think that drama is a natural part of all love relationships, all friendships, all business partnerships, all cooperations.

And yet. As soon as you do meet someone your soul knows and likes, you will notice that the peace at the core of that relationship actually feels like freedom, freshness, and curiosity.

Because getting to know your soul mate on a human level is seriously interesting stuff.

You don’t know what their current body feels like. You don’t know what their current heart wants. You don’t know how their mind works, in this lifetime, and you don’t know their preferences and perspectives, at all. There’s a whole lifetime of interests you can discover together.

So, if you are unsure whether that one particular relationship in your life is based on a soul connection, feel free to contact me. Helping you understand your personal relationship systems is part of the work that I do.

A personal note

Life gets easier when you can see yourself.

This turned out to be my theme for 2017, and it will be my one of my guiding principles for 2018.

And it’s also the tag line for my brand new website.

Over the past few months, I went after an old dream and worked with some seriously talented creatives – Evan Leah Quinn and Ines Njers – who helped me refine my online aesthetic into something that truly feels like me. And I am absolutely stunned by the results.

Hire Evan if you are looking for someone with intuitive branding skills who will create a website design for you that feels right. Evan is talented, intuitive, whip smart, and her work is always thoroughly mapped out, ahead of time – which made my German structured mind feel right at home.

And let Ines take your pictures if you want to feel like a model. Her talent for catching someone’s personality with her camera is absolutely priceless.

Thank you, Evan and Ines! It’s been a dream!

Branding & Website: Evan Leah Quinn of SixteenJuly

Portraits: Ines Njers 

Crises are a natural part of life

Do you cut your own hair? I’m guessing you let a professional stylist do that job.

Do you manage your finances all by yourself? I’m assuming you have at least one person who helps you make sense of your numbers.

Do you provide your own entertainment? Presumably, you’re enjoying the work of professional artists when you netflix at night.

So why would you not also hire a professional to help you dissolve all those big and small relationship crises that are a natural part of life?

You don’t have to go through this alone.

Contact me if you’d like some help.

Your inner Yes

How many decisions did you make over the course of the past few months that didn’t come from a big, beautiful YES?

I’ve noticed that in an ever-changing world, many of us feel as if there’s no real YES or NO any more. As if we couldn’t possibly understand all of the elements involved in order to make clear-cut decisions any longer.

And yet.

When you start to tune into your inner voice and merge the information coming from your inner guidance with the hard facts presented by the world around you, it’s like a map of your personal path starts to form from within you.

As you tune into yourself, AND into the environment around you, you can hear that YES within you, and it gets easier and easier to follow its route through the complicated terrain of modern life.

That inner YES knows all of your strengths, your expertise, your gifts, your passions, your joys and your soul’s preferences.

AND it knows all the intricacies of the world around you.

Which means that your inner YES will guide you well.

Even if the route looks complex, at first. Especially, if it looks complex. Once you start following your inner YES, you will notice that “complex” is just another word for “not boring”. Or even, “deeply satisfying”.

Feel free to contact me if you would be interested in learning more about the route your very own inner YES has in store for you.

Difficult conversations

The difficult conversations are the ones I remember.

It is never easy to start these conversations. But there is beauty in “difficult”.

Because these conversations take me to places I have never been. Places where I have to navigate from my heart, work with the bold kind of tenderness that lives there, and fully be myself with someone who might not see the world like I do.

Where I have to trust that my courage is strong enough to get me through this. Even when I feel like a blubbery mess, in that moment.

I have a feeling that we will all need to start lots of difficult, messy, human conversations in the years to come.

Not just to share who we are with each other.

But to create the conditions for a different, peaceful reality.

If you’re ready for a difficult conversation (and some truth-seeking within yourself), feel free to contact me. I promise that the inner truth of what you are currently dealing with is way more beautiful than you might suspect.

The challenges ahead won’t be easy

In German, there’s an interesting saying: “That’s a tough nut (you’re cracking there)”, meaning: Clearly, the challenges ahead won’t be easy. But very much worth a try.

I’ve noticed in my one-on-one Sessions that often, the “toughest nuts” we’re all dealing with are our strong emotions.

The anger and shame we didn’t learn how to deal with, the exhaustion and fear we would like to get rid of, or the joy and excitement we think are inappropriate.

So, much of my work is helping you to crack these “emotional nuts” open, so you can get to the lovely center, where all the yummy bits are.

Why go through all that trouble? Because those “yummy bits” hidden inside your emotions are the nourishment you need to create deep healing, peace, and success.

Contact me if you’d like to get cracking.

Almost ashamed

There was a time when I felt almost ashamed when speaking about the more unusual aspects of my work – the past life healings, the Reiki-like hand movements, the practical advice coming from my Spirit Guides and ancestors – because these things were just too “out of this world”.

Until I realised that this was ancient work.

Work that had existed in all cultures, all over the world, since the beginning of time.

And that even the Bavarian culture that I (partly) grew up with still had traces of this kind of work hidden under seasonal rituals and ancient tales.

And that’s when things got interesting.

So if you’re ready for some ancient spiritual work translated into modern times, contact me. I’m happy to connect you to your own intuitive wisdom that has been with you since the beginning of time.

Integrity as a template

Integrity means: To be undivided, whole, and clearly recognisable in your truth. It’s a beautiful tool of measurement for the sum of your actions – seen, and unseen – and the desire to stay in your own integrity is a perfect guide for decision-making.

Imagine you could meet yourself, tonight, at a party, and you could take a look at your life through different eyes: Is there any part of it that feels unrecognisable to who you thought you were?

Is there any element that doesn’t fit in with your inner image of who you want yourself to be?

Is there anything in your life that feels like it splits you in two?

Use your integrity as a template to show you the way home, back to your true self.

And let me know if you need any help with this. It’s one of my specialties.

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