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How to love your differences

There’s a common problem that runs through many (love) relationships: That two people, who are very different from each other, feel stressed by being so different from each other.
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Let’s say one of them is very spontaneous, has a thousand ideas, and wants to make every idea a reality, right away – no matter what.
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And let’s say their partner is very calm and methodical, likes to plan ahead, and loves to apply their know-how in a very rational, diligent manner.
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The problem starts when both of them try to adapt to each other. Person one will feel bad about their ideas, thinking they’re “too spontaneous”, and person two will feel like “the boring one” who constantly “overthinks things”.
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The result: They both stop being there for each other, and they both feel like they’re not sexy enough for their partner.
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Energetically, there’s a beautiful, elegant solution to this problem.
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When you meditatively let yourself drop into the four mystical chambers of your heart, you can get a very direct, embodied experience of how you would really like to play, in your relationships.
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(And I don’t mean your sex life – although your heart may give you some very detailed pieces of information about that part, too.)
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Energetically, your heart can bring you to a place where you can be you, in a very relaxed way – and where you can keep being yourself, no matter who you’re with.
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That’s because your heart deeply supports your individuality, and it can help you embody your individuality, fully.
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Which means that once you have gone through this process inside your heart, your partner will experience you just the way you are. In all your glory.
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Spoiler alert: You’re going to love being yourself.

If that sounds like something you would like to try:

My new Heart Truth program still has a couple of spots available, so if you would like to

  • get direct access to your inner truth
  • gain deep insights into the four big themes of your heart: Love, Wisdom, Strength and Vision
  • experience profound healing and transformation in these areas of your life
  • learn to love your individuality
  • and lay a foundation for being your own guide in these chaotic times,

my program might be for you.
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Registration closes May 15* (the day after tomorrow).
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Here are all the details.
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And if you are interested, contact me here. We will start with a free, non-binding intro conversation via Zoom. (You won’t have to create your own account – all you need is a device that lets you do video conferences, e.g. your smart phone or a laptop that has a camera and a microphone.)
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I look forward to our first conversation!
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Love
Lilly
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P.S.: Did you miss the deadline? Not to worry. The next round starts in September. Check for updates on my Heart Truths page!
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The wisdom of your heart

Your heart is such a fascinating thing. It’s the place within you where your earthly self and your eternal self meet. Its cells are part of nature, and its wisdom channels your soul.
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It holds information that your third eye can decipher, but not provide for you. Your heart can download soul-guidance that nothing else can give you – no psychic reading, no book, no standardised personality test.
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And if you know how to work with it, your heart can be your most trustworthy guide in these chaotic times.
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I have created an 8-week, 4-Session, one-on-one coaching program around this, designed to give you direct access to your heart’s wisdom.
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And its official launch is just a few tweaks and beauty edits away.
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Love is not governed by the mind

The four subtle chambers of your heart hold deep wisdom for you. They also hold the patterns of your current relationship with love. And they know which energy medicine is needed in order for you to compassionately heal your relationship with love.
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Hardly anyone of us grew up in an environment that was infused with actual love.
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And the patterns our ancestors laid out before us do not work for the times we are living in.
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Love is not governed by the mind, and yet, our minds often try to convince us that there must be a reasonable step-by-step guide that we can follow to be in love, and that there surely is such a thing as a “proven method” for us to master this game, once and for all.
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The heart knows another way. It would like to take you inwards and lead you on a much more subtle journey, on a much more mystical ride than the mind would like love to be. The mind’s tools do not work in this realm.
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To love and be loved means to let your heart lead you. And it means to be in true relationship with yourself, with the ones you want to spend your time with, and with the world as such – as brutal as it is, sometimes.
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Contact me if you’d be interested in exploring the four mystical chambers of your heart and go on this ancient healing journey with me. I would be honoured to serve you in this way.
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Crises are a natural part of life

Do you cut your own hair? I’m guessing you let a professional stylist do that job.
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Do you manage your finances all by yourself? I’m assuming you have at least one person who helps you make sense of your numbers.
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Do you provide your own entertainment? Presumably, you’re enjoying the work of professional artists when you netflix at night.
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So why would you not also hire a professional to help you dissolve all those big and small relationship crises that are a natural part of life?
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You don’t have to go through this alone.
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Contact me if you’d like some help.
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#peaceperspective
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The challenges ahead won’t be easy

In German, there’s an interesting saying: “That’s a tough nut (you’re cracking there)”, meaning: Clearly, the challenges ahead won’t be easy. But very much worth a try.
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I’ve noticed in my one-on-one Sessions that often, the “toughest nuts” we’re all dealing with are our strong emotions.
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The anger and shame we didn’t learn how to deal with, the exhaustion and fear we would like to get rid of, or the joy and excitement we think are inappropriate.
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So, much of my work is helping you to crack these “emotional nuts” open, so you can get to the lovely center, where all the yummy bits are.
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Why go through all that trouble? Because those “yummy bits” hidden inside your emotions are the nourishment you need to create deep healing, peace, and success.
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Contact me if you’d like to get cracking.

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Choose relaxed tenacity

There’s a beautiful balance that I learned from Yoga which is instantly applicable to life: tenacity and relaxation.
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In essence, Yoga works like this: You start to consciously control your breathing, you move into your pose and gently hold it, and you repeat a mantra in your mind to stay focused.
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This creates a very relaxed way of being, and at the same time, you learn how to use your stamina, tenacity, and grit.
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You might have noticed in your own Yoga practice that a conscious breath and a mantra can help you hold a pose much longer than if you do your “normal” breathing or let your mind slowly slip into negativity when things get a bit more difficult.
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You develop a knowing that your body is always giving you feedback, and how to adjust your stance, if needed.
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And you learn that your conscious focus and your willingness to keep up will help you to relax even when there’s tension or pain. You take a stance, you breathe, you stay focused, and you choose a conscious, relaxed tenacity.
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Life imitating Yoga.
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Yoga imitating life.
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Let me know if you need any help with translating your Yogic tenacity to life. As a Kundalini Yoga teacher, it is part of my job to provide those kinds of translation services. Contact me for a non-binding Intro Conversation if you’d like to learn more.
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