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I think the term “self-help” is misleading.
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I didn’t heal from any of my heartbreaks, crises, or chronic pain issues all by myself. And I don’t think anyone should have to.
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We are doing ourselves a huge disservice if we try to make it on our own. Yes, reaching out to a professional coach for help – or to any professional, for that matter – is always a bit awkward, because the experience of connecting with someone who knows how to help you always creates a mirror image, almost tangibly, of who you are within your current crisis, big or small, and of who you might be when it’s all over.
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And that dissonance between who you are now, in crisis, and who you would like to become once you’ve resolved your crisis often comes with a heaping dose of hopelessness. As in “Trying to get from here to there is just too damn hard…”
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But that mirror image that any professional coach can give you also instantly reflects your beauty, your gifts, and your desires. Which means that you instantly gain more clarity and peace by identifying that truth within yourself.
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Which then makes it so much easier to take the first step out of your crisis.
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You don’t have to go through this alone.
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Reach out.
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#peaceperspective
#relationshipping
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Everything speaks.

Everything speaks.
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Do you trust your inner voice? You’re not alone if you don’t. My mind used to be inundated with so many different opinions that for a long time, I had a hard time hearing myself, in there.
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My brain was flooded with the sound waves of “expert-voices”.
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The assertive phrases of some books I had read had filled up entire areas of my mind.
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There were one-liners certain people of my past had left in there that were like annoying little gnats, buzzing in my ears from time to time, just to make sure I didn’t forget about their opinionated presence.
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And some assumptions that had formed in early childhood were like huge humming fog-horns: Repeatedly, they would out-blast every new thought wave my mind was trying to form.
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Until I learned how to pick up the frequencies of me, underneath all that excess sound.
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Everything speaks. Your body speaks. Your emotions speak. Your inner children speak. Even your future self does.
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And I don’t mean that in a metaphorical way: You can literally tune into your body and hear what it has to say.

Try this:

Breathe into the area of your body that currently feels the most discomfort. Now open up your inner senses, lovingly turn towards that discomfort, and start asking simple questions, one at a time:
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“What do you need?”
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“How can I help you?”
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“Do you have a message for me?”
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Listen.
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Breathe.
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Listen some more.
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And if this exercise feels difficult to do, please feel free to reach out for a non-binding Intro Conversation with me. I’m here to help.
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#innerwisdomsystem
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Your inner Yes

How many decisions did you make over the course of the past few months that didn’t come from a big, beautiful YES?
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I’ve noticed that in an ever-changing world, many of us feel as if there’s no real YES or NO any more. As if we couldn’t possibly understand all of the elements involved in order to make clear-cut decisions any longer.
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And yet.
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When you start to tune into your inner voice and merge the information coming from your inner guidance with the hard facts presented by the world around you, it’s like a map of your personal path starts to form from within you.
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As you tune into yourself, AND into the environment around you, you can hear that YES within you, and it gets easier and easier to follow its route through the complicated terrain of modern life.
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That inner YES knows all of your strengths, your expertise, your gifts, your passions, your joys and your soul’s preferences.
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AND it knows all the intricacies of the world around you.
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Which means that your inner YES will guide you well.
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Even if the route looks complex, at first. Especially, if it looks complex. Once you start following your inner YES, you will notice that “complex” is just another word for “not boring”. Or even, “deeply satisfying”.
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Feel free to contact me if you would be interested in learning more about the route your very own inner YES has in store for you.
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#innerwisdomsystem
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Difficult conversations

The difficult conversations are the ones I remember.
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It is never easy to start these conversations. But there is beauty in “difficult”.
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Because these conversations take me to places I have never been. Places where I have to navigate from my heart, work with the bold kind of tenderness that lives there, and fully be myself with someone who might not see the world like I do.
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Where I have to trust that my courage is strong enough to get me through this. Even when I feel like a blubbery mess, in that moment.
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I have a feeling that we will all need to start lots of difficult, messy, human conversations in the years to come.
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Not just to share who we are with each other.
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But to create the conditions for a different, peaceful reality.
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If you’re ready for a difficult conversation (and some truth-seeking within yourself), feel free to contact me. I promise that the inner truth of what you are currently dealing with is way more beautiful than you might suspect.
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#peaceperspective
#relationshipping
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The challenges ahead won’t be easy

In German, there’s an interesting saying: “That’s a tough nut you’re cracking there”, meaning: Clearly, the challenges ahead won’t be easy. But very much worth a try.
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I’ve noticed in my one-on-one Sessions that often, the “toughest nuts” we’re all dealing with are our strong emotions.

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The anger and shame we didn’t learn how to deal with, the exhaustion and fear we would like to get rid of, or the joy and excitement we think are inappropriate.
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So, much of my work is helping you to crack these “emotional nuts” open, so you can get to the lovely center, where all the yummy bits are.
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Why go through all that trouble? Because those “yummy bits” hidden inside your emotions are the nourishment you need to create deep healing, peace, and success.
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Contact me if you’d like to get cracking.

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#innerwisdomsystem
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Integrity as a template

Integrity means: To be undivided, whole, and clearly recognisable in your truth. It’s a beautiful tool of measurement for the sum of your actions – seen, and unseen – and the desire to stay in your own integrity is a perfect guide for decision-making.
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Imagine you could meet yourself, tonight, at a party, and you could take a look at your life through different eyes: Is there any part of it that feels unrecognisable to who you thought you were?
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Is there any element that doesn’t fit in with your inner image of who you want yourself to be?
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Is there anything in your life that feels like it splits you in two?
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Use your integrity as a template to show you the way home, back to your true self.
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And let me know if you need any help with this. It’s one of my specialties.
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#innerwisdomsystem
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Work with nature

Polarity is natural in the world we live in. Ebb and flow, creation and destruction are two sides of the same life, and change and chaos are normal. How do you deal with this reality?
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Option one

is to problem solve, micro manage, and to try to force unwanted chaos to realign with the order your rational mind wants to see.
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Which usually means that the forces of nature will burst your bubble, at some point. For example, building an artificial river bed and expecting the waters to behave the way you want them to is absurd. There will be floods.
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The same is true for any kind of interference with the natural forces that make up your life. Trying to force yourself to act against your own true nature does not work, in the long run. Your body is the first to resist.
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Option two

is to take a step back, face the facts, sink into intuitive creativity mode, let a vision arise out of your interconnectedness with life, and co-create with the nature of this planet.
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Which means that your relationship with life changes, completely.
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The two of you are working together now.
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And life starts to tell you its secrets.
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Feel free to reach out to me if you’re having difficulties understanding what life is trying to tell you. This is what my work is for.
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#innerwisdomsystem
#peaceperspective
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Choose relaxed tenacity

There’s a beautiful balance that I learned from Yoga which is instantly applicable to life: tenacity and relaxation.
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In essence, Yoga works like this: You start to consciously control your breathing, you move into your pose and gently hold it, and you repeat a mantra in your mind to stay focused.
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This creates a very relaxed way of being, and at the same time, stamina, tenacity, and grit.
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You might have noticed in your own Yoga practice that a conscious breath and a mantra can help you hold a pose much longer than if you do your “normal” breathing or let your mind slowly slip into negativity when things get a bit more difficult.
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You develop a knowing that your body is always giving you feedback, and how to adjust your stance, if needed.
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And you learn that your conscious focus and your willingness to keep up will help you to relax even when there’s tension or pain. You take a stance, you breathe, you stay focused, and you choose a conscious, relaxed tenacity.
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Life imitating Yoga.
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Yoga imitating life.
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Let me know if you need any help with translating your Yogic tenacity to life. As a Kundalini Yoga teacher, it is part of my job to provide those kinds of translation services. Contact me for a non-binding Intro Conversation if you’d like to learn more.
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#innerwisdomsystem
#peaceperspective
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