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Lilly Mackuth How to feel loved Blog Post

Happy Valentine’s, darlings!

Do you know how to feel loved?

If you’re not sure, I’ve got you.

Try this:

Step 1: Center and ground yourself, and get yourself into a meditative state. (Here is a link to a manual, if you’d like one.)

Step 2: Now, ask your Team (i.e. your Guides etc., your Soul and the Earth) to help you sense-see-feel your personal energetic frequency of love. Feel it take up space inside of you, and as you do, notice the various sensations that are coming up in your body: Does love feel like freshness, peace, or expansion to you? Is your body relaxing into it? Does it feel easy for you to hold that energy of love inside of you?

Step 3: Then, ask your Team to release any and all energies from your system that are not yours, but which had been clinging onto your personal perception of love up until now. Ask your Team to completely dissolve those energies for you (since those never authentically belonged to you in the first place). What do you notice?

Step 4: Now do the corresponding opposite of what I just described: Ask your Team to call back all energies which do belong to your own authentic frequency of love – but which had been scattered elsewhere up until now. Ask your Team to fill you up on those (your) energies. What are you sensing?

Step 5: To finish, breathe into your newly refreshed frequency of love, and ask your body to integrate this updated version into your system. Feel the depth of that love. Bask in the beauty of being able to tune into that deeply delicious experience of feeling loved at any given moment.

Bonus: Notice how the feelings you have for the people you really really like naturally match the frequency of love which you just so beautifully expanded within yourself.

 

Sending big Valentine Love!

– Lilly

 

 

#relationshipping
#energywork

  

An altruist’s edge

In my coaching practice, I often work with people who are altruists, who are also fantastically good at bringing people together. They are the queens and kings of party-throwing. They plan beautiful projects with dozens of people involved. They see these projects through till the end. And they sacrifice some of their own well-being for the sake of being of service to others. They see where our human society lacks justice, beauty and peace, and then they work hard to literally make this world a better place. They get things done. And they are over-worked and under-nourished when it comes to their heart’s deeper needs and desires.
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If this is you, here’s an edge you are carrying around, probably without knowing it: You have such a deep longing for being with other people that you create elaborate experiences for others just so you can connect with with them – at the expense of your own time and energy.
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The mere act of bringing people together – by inviting a diverse team of professionals to join you for a new project you just plucked out of your highly creative brain, or by having your friends come sit around your kitchen table at brunch – is highly fulfilling for you.
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But the thought that you could connect with others “without a purpose” is probably deeply uncomfortable for you.
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Imagine you would meet with someone just to spend time with them.
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To have coffee with a friend, with no other agenda than to chat for a while and to feel well in each other’s presence.
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And to then not invite that friend over to your place.
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To then also not pay for a whole party and invite all of your other friends, too.
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To just say to someone: “Hey, I would love to see you. Are you free on Friday?”
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And to not have this coffee date be about anything else but connection.
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If you are feeling a psychological edge when you imagine going there: Good. Play with that edge. Feel its shape and size, and sense where this experience starts making you feel uncomfortable: As soon as you imagine calling your friend? When you imagine that there’s no deeper meaning behind that date, that you would just like to spend time with them? When you imagine that you won’t be paying for your friend’s coffee, only for the one you are going to have, yourself?
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Sense where you have a tendency to over-give, and where you feel uncomfortable around receiving the gift of spending time with someone you love.
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And then call your friend anyway.
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Let this be awkward.
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You are trying something new.
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#peaceperspective
#relationshipping

Photo: Adam Jang via Unsplash

The Love-Trust-Respect Triangle

“Imagine a world where your closest relationships are built on Love-Trust-Respect. Now compare that world to your current reality. What do you see?” – #innerwisdomsystem
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In my work, I often come across an energetic triangle of love, trust and respect. It seems to build a solid foundation for our most precious relationships, and when one of its three building blocks is missing, things tend to feel a bit… wonky.
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For example, if you are in a friendship where love is missing, you probably feel like you’re constantly negotiating business deals. Here’s what that could look like: Person C: “If you do X for me, I will do Y for you.” – Person D: “Ok, but only if you promise you won’t do Z in front of everybody.” Exhausting, no?
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If you are in a romantic relationship where you don’t trust your partner, you might be suspicious of their motives. Imagine this dialogue: Person A: “Why would you go to that gig without me?” – Person B: “Why would you want to come? You don’t even like that kind of music.” A lack of trust creates this kind of tension. Deep trust would make A and B celebrate their differences.
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If you are in a relationship that lacks respect, you won’t see one another clearly, and repeated anger patterns can become part of your conversations. An (exaggerated) version of this could sound like this: Person E: “I love you, I trust you, but really, I think you should be doing something else with your life.” – Person F: “Oh really? Look who’s talking! Like you were only ever happy in your career?!?” Respect sounds different.
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Have a look at your closest personal relationships. Are the energies of love, trust and respect all present there? Can you sense that all three would like to support you?
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How would you like to increase your capacity for love, trust and respect – within yourself, first, and then, also, within your various relationships?
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#relationshipping

Your soul has an inner structure

Just as a dry little seed holds the full DNA of a flower, your soul’s innate structure holds all the information on who you are.
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A flower’s DNA holds information on how its plant will react to floods or droughts, how it will play with bees and other pollinators, how it will copy its inner system and create new generations of plants, and so on.
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It’s a very neutral process of growth, bloom, death and rebirth that plays out every day, right outside our windows.
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Similarly, your soul’s inner structure knows who you are.
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Its inner wisdom knows how you will react to the societal challenges you grow up in, how you will move through joyful or traumatic experiences, how you will connect with souls that are compatible to yours, how you will give birth to new ideas, etc.
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In order to make sense of your soul’s structure, what’s required of you is to learn how to tune in, connect to your soul and download its wisdom. Your body is aware of that wisdom, your heart is, too, but your mind may have its doubts about the details.
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And since we live in a very brain-focused world, your mind needs to be made conscious of certain truths within you for you to be able to actively live as yourself.

Try this:

Get yourself into a centered, meditative state and bring your awareness into your line of light, as it flows up and down your spine, down to the heart of earth, and up to the center of your soul, in a never-ending loop.
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Once you’re tuned into that line of light, ask your #innerwisdomsystem to send you an energetic image of your soul’s original structure, and receive it through your mind’s eye.
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Meditate on that image.
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See if you can make out your soul’s colours and inner workings.
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Watch how it reacts when other souls are in its vicinity.
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Ask your soul some simple questions and fine-tune your inner senses to receive its answers.
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What do you notice?
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To close, gently focus on the way your body is breathing, feel your feet on the ground, wiggle your toes, and come back to your here and now.
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#innerwisdomsystem
#relationshipping
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Photo: Lilly Mackuth
(from my “Symmetric Light Series” on Instagram)

Love is not governed by the mind

The four subtle chambers of your heart hold deep wisdom for you. They also hold the patterns of your current relationship with love. And they know which energy medicine is needed in order for you to compassionately heal your relationship with love.
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Hardly anyone of us grew up in an environment that was infused with actual love.
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And the patterns our ancestors laid out before us do not work for the times we are living in.
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Love is not governed by the mind, and yet, our minds often try to convince us that there must be a reasonable step-by-step guide that we can follow to be in love, and that there surely is such a thing as a “proven method” for us to master this game, once and for all.
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The heart knows another way. It would like to take you inwards and lead you on a much more subtle journey, on a much more mystical ride than the mind would like love to be. The mind’s tools do not work in this realm.
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To love and be loved means to let your heart lead you. And it means to be in true relationship with yourself, with the ones you want to spend your time with, and with the world as such – as brutal as it is, sometimes.
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Contact me if you’d be interested in exploring the four mystical chambers of your heart and go on this ancient healing journey with me. I would be honoured to serve you in this way.
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#innerwisdomsystem
#relationshipping
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Photo: Nate Bell via Unsplash

Relationships are like ecosystems

The best relationships are a bit like benevolent ecosystems: When you are embedded in a cooperative ecosystem of souls that are compatible and familiar with your own soul, you thrive like an orchid living on a big beautiful tree in the middle of an ancient intact rain forest.
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In other words: Your soul has soul-siblings and soul-partners (romantic, and otherwise) that you intimately know how to work with, live with, love with, before you are formally introduced here on this planet.
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And when the two of you meet, as humans, it’s like a spiritual element of your life clicks into place that was missing before.
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However, Earth is big. And unfortunately, we rarely grow up right around the corner from our soul siblings and soul partners.
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Which means that finding those people we naturally click with can be quite a bit of a challenge. Spiritually, energetically, and time-wise.
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Also, as a western society, we are very much used to the drama of dysfunctional relationship patterns. So when we do meet those soul mates, the peace that is at the core of that new-familiar relationship can almost seem dull in comparison, at first.
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We are so used to drama, in fact, that some of us are addicted to it.
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If we haven’t encountered anyone from our own familiar ecosystem yet, we tend to think that drama is a natural part of all love relationships, all friendships, all business partnerships, all cooperations.
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And yet. As soon as you do meet someone your soul knows and likes, you will notice that the peace at the core of that relationship actually feels like freedom, freshness, and curiosity.
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Because getting to know your soul mate on a human level is seriously interesting stuff.
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You don’t know what their current body feels like. You don’t know what their current heart wants. You don’t know how their mind works, in this lifetime, and you don’t know their preferences and perspectives, at all. There’s a whole lifetime of interests you can discover together.
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So, if you are unsure whether that one particular relationship in your life is based on a soul connection, feel free to contact me. Helping you understand your personal relationship systems is part of the work that I do.
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#relationshipping
#peaceperspective
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Photo: Austin Chan via Unsplash

A personal note

Life gets easier when you can see yourself.
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This turned out to be my theme for 2017, and it will be my one of my guiding principles for 2018.
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And it’s also the tag line for my brand new website.
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Over the past few months, I went after an old dream and worked with some seriously talented creatives – Evan Leah Quinn and Ines Njers – who helped me refine my online aesthetic into something that truly feels like me. And I am absolutely stunned by the results.
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Hire Evan if you are looking for someone with intuitive branding skills who will create a website design for you that feels right. Evan is talented, intuitive, whip smart, and her work is always thoroughly mapped out, ahead of time – which made my German structured mind feel right at home.
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And let Ines take your pictures if you want to feel like a model. Her talent for catching someone’s personality with her camera is absolutely priceless.
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Thank you, Evan and Ines! It’s been a dream!
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Branding & Website: Evan Leah Quinn of SixteenJuly
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Portraits: Ines Njers 
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#innerwisdomsystem
#peaceperspective
#relationshipping

 

Crises are a natural part of life

Do you cut your own hair? I’m guessing you let a professional stylist do that job.
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Do you manage your finances all by yourself? I’m assuming you have at least one person who helps you make sense of your numbers.
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Do you provide your own entertainment? Presumably, you’re enjoying the work of professional artists when you netflix at night.
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So why would you not also hire a professional to help you dissolve all those big and small relationship crises that are a natural part of life?
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You don’t have to go through this alone.
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Contact me if you’d like some help.
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#peaceperspective
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Photo: Wenniel Lun via Unsplash

Self-help not required

I think the term “self-help” is misleading.
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I didn’t heal from any of my heartbreaks, crises, or chronic pain issues all by myself. And I don’t think anyone should have to.
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We are doing ourselves a huge disservice if we try to make it on our own. Yes, reaching out to a professional coach for help – or to any professional, for that matter – is always a bit awkward, because the experience of connecting with someone who knows how to help you always creates a mirror image, almost tangibly, of who you are within your current crisis, big or small, and of who you might be when it’s all over.
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And that dissonance between who you are now, in crisis, and who you would like to become once you’ve resolved your crisis often comes with a heaping dose of hopelessness. As in “Trying to get from here to there is just too damn hard…”
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But that mirror image that any professional coach can give you also instantly reflects your beauty, your gifts, and your desires. Which means that you instantly gain more clarity and peace by identifying that truth within yourself.
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Which then makes it so much easier to take the first step out of your crisis.
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You don’t have to go through this alone.
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Reach out.
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#peaceperspective
#relationshipping
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Photo: Kristine Weilert via Unsplash

Difficult conversations

The difficult conversations are the ones I remember.
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It is never easy to start these conversations. But there is beauty in “difficult”.
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Because these conversations take me to places I have never been. Places where I have to navigate from my heart, work with the bold kind of tenderness that lives there, and fully be myself with someone who might not see the world like I do.
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Where I have to trust that my courage is strong enough to get me through this. Even when I feel like a blubbery mess, in that moment.
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I have a feeling that we will all need to start lots of difficult, messy, human conversations in the years to come.
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Not just to share who we are with each other.
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But to create the conditions for a different, peaceful reality.
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If you’re ready for a difficult conversation (and some truth-seeking within yourself), feel free to contact me. I promise that the inner truth of what you are currently dealing with is way more beautiful than you might suspect.
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#peaceperspective
#relationshipping
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Photo: Arun Kuchibhotla via Unsplash